“Sleep…why can’t I get any? I either have difficulty going to sleep, or I wake up in the night and I don’t feel rested when I get up in the morning.”
Insomnia plagues many people and is frustrating, exhausting and it wears us down if it goes on long enough. Do you notice that you carry more than your fair share of responsibilities? You take on too much?
Learning to hand things off, whether physically or emotionally, is your challenge.
In general, below are some routines that can help.
Here are 2 factors to consider before we go to bed each night.
1. What issues have I not dealt with in my life?
2. What have I picked up and am carrying?
Factor 1: What issues have I not dealt with in my life?
When we feel resolved and we are taking care of our lives in a way that makes us feel complete…we don’t have thoughts flurrying around in our minds at night and we can rest. In our busy lives, we have to prioritize constantly and this leaves many things left untouched at the end of the day. These are the thoughts that wake our minds up at night. We experience that feeling of not feeling on top of things and it causes a lot of stress.
If we have emotions that we don’t deal with, those will rise up at the inopportune time of 4am. We are not having the clearing conversations that we need to feel satisfied about our relationships. (If you need assistance with how to do that, Understanding Emotional Patterns and Defining your Bottom Lines are great courses to help you.)
We need to prioritize intuitively rather than by the needs of others. We never take the time that is truly for ourselves to feel grounded and in a good space to sit and take in the wisdom within us to prioritize appropriately.
◦ Sit down and list the items that are pulling on you or causing you stress. Take a moment to hold the thought that 'things can actually work out'…do what you can to calm your body and mind…and allow the thought to pop in on where this task is on your priority list and put your tasks in order.
◦ Then, take another moment to determine how best to handle the task…do you delegate it…what is yours to do?
◦ List the emotions/relationships that feel in turmoil for you. Remove any expectation of the outcome (this is very challenging)…and let yourself sink into what the best course of action is in which to deal with this person, if anything.
Factor 2: What have I picked up and am carrying?
Imagine going through a dust storm or walking on a street where there is a lot of pollution…you can feel it on your body and you would want to shower to feel the relief of being clean again.
We cannot see electromagnetic energy such as radio waves from cell phones, peoples’ energies of their emotional disturbance, but your body does feel them on a level, even if you aren’t aware of it. It is why so many people need to go home and crack a beer, or relax, or need some time on their own – to feel relief.
◦ Showers/baths, exercise and reflection time can help you feel lighter and refreshed when you notice you feel a little ‘off’.
◦ Also, tuning in to what you actually picked up would be even better…did you interact with an angry person, or walk into a place where the workers are overworked? Are you worried about someone and unconsciously carrying their turmoil? Identifying these things helps you alleviate feeling heavy/dark when that happens.
◦ Make sure you set up a system of friends/collaborators who will be there for you as well.
Good luck to releasing what is NOT yours to carry – you can do it!