By Amy Gorno - Mastering Intuitive Living (MIL) is where we go to re-set our blueprint (ID tool that helps us intuitively reach our goals) and get the clarity we need to keep navigating our path in life.
In a recent class, Lynn M. Bunch explained the challenge with changing negative patterns on our lives. We must desire the positive result more than the negative pattern. Sounds easy, right? Look at it this way… Lynn used the analogy of coffee. If you are not a coffee drinker, it's not a challenge to give it up. You could easily walk away from a cup of coffee because you don't want it.
But if you are a coffee drinker, the desire to give up coffee is not quite enough to truly cure you of your love for coffee. You would be at risk to fall back into the pattern of drinking coffee when you’re having a bad day, need a pick-me-up, or just looking for some comfort.
To truly give up coffee, you must truly not WANT coffee anymore. This is when you change your desire to be for something else. The risk of falling back into the pattern of drinking coffee again goes away.
Not a coffee drinker? Think about a time that you got really sick from something you ate. Will you ever eat that food again? No. Your desire for that food has likely been replaced with a desire to NOT have it and thus enabled you to move on easily.
Any change you are looking to make could be confronted with this same challenge. Are you trying to lose weight but are falling ‘off the wagon’ and stuck in a plateau?
Are you desiring a new career but keep spinning around in old risk-taking fears or questioning your value?
Do you desire a relationship and feel there are ‘no good ones out there anymore’?
These could all be signs that you have fallen back into a negative pattern and delaying your positive result.
What have you been trying to change that has been a continual struggle? What are your desires and are they greater than what you don’t want?