“I have recurring sinus infections, especially around trips. I have been asked to go home on a trip and see family, and I don’t know how to reconcile the hurt with other family members.”
When we experience recurring physical concerns, there is an underlying cause that started it. Physically, you know what you need to do when you get a sinus infection to take care of it. But I would like to address the cause of them and what is making your body vulnerable to the infections.
Metaphorically, since yours is a sinus infection, look for a significant person in your life that you were upset with… in this case… about the trip (hint…it is the person you are going home to see). Allow yourself to feel those emotions around that situation first. Since you are going home, having a conversation with that person about that incident would be good… asking for feedback and where they were at when they made that decision. (I’m talking a little in code here).
And then there are the ‘other’ family members there that you allow yourself to feel angry with, rather than the original person. You are blaming them for the incident, rather than addressing the type of relationship you want from the original person. Getting clear on what you want from that relationship and having a dialogue with how it can look like for the both of you that works will release the frustration you experience each time you think about this person.
If you feel lost on how to do this, we have a course called Understanding Emotional Patterns that would help you be able to clear the emotions that get triggered for you, so that you don’t have to feel that way anymore.
- Rona Recker