Rona Recker

Knock Knock.... by Rona Recker

Knock knock.

Who’s there?

Y.M.I.

Y.M.I. who?

Y.M.I. sick????!!!

I have noticed a LOT of people are experiencing colds, the flu, sinus infections, etc. And the word that popped is that it is because of GUILT. When we feel Guilt, our immunity lowers and sickness can get in. 

What is Guilt? It is all about judging yourself. Guilt is ‘supposed’ to be a momentary reaction to help us get back in balance because we either didn’t hold a decision we made (for example, you made the decision to have a small event with just your family and other family members feel slighted... but they don’t realize you needed some intimate time to bond again) or we did not make the right decision in the first place (you knew not to overextend yourself and you did it anyway). (Manifesting Your Desires Course). Guilt stops us from being able to manifest things in our lives.

So, how do you clear being sick? Well, clear your Guilt! (Stop beating yourself up!)

First, write everything down that is bothering you and determine what you could have done differently to prevent it. (Like, holding to your decision of having the intimate family time, or speaking up saying you weren’t going to be able to overextend yourself). 

We make a lot of decisions because we don’t want to reject people and don’t want them to reject us. And every time we do this, we fall into a Dependent Pattern (from 7 Human Roles. How do you feel when you get rejected...? That’s your Dependent Pattern). We don’t make appropriate decisions for ourselves every time we do this and we just accumulate more Guilt.

Second, if you know you made the right decision... Stand firm in it. Hold that decision and honor it. If you did NOT make the right decision, you need to have a clearing conversation either with the person or within yourself. It could look like an apology, clarification, or just knowing you are going to work on not doing that again.

Think of all the conversations going on in your mind right now... clear them with real heartfelt conversations. Then...

Knock knock...

Who’s there?

Guilt.

Guilt, eh? 

Nope!!!

Holiday Gut Rescue by Rona Recker

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Deck the Halls with Bowels of Holly…

There are a lot of people who suffer from intestinal discomfort, duress…and let’s just say it…diarrhea. It can be difficult to talk about, very stressful and even embarrassing.

 

Would you like to know some underlying reasons causing it? If we follow the philosophy that our mind dictates what our body does, then every thought sends electrical impulses to your body constantly, giving it messages. If you are having contrary thoughts, those get sent out to your body as well.

 

If we also follow the philosophy that we all have an inner guidance system, or intuition, then ideally, that would be where we want to get our answers from. This philosophy would be called Spirit, Mind, Body because you get intuition (Spirit) that your mind (Mind) has to translate and then it goes out to your body (Body).

 

So, back to some underlying reasons. Everyone is different, so there really isn’t a standard answer for everyone, which is why I’m going to list some reasons below as well as what to do for them.

 

To make it simple…here are the 3 top reasons:

1.       You are worrying because you are not making decisions in a timely manner.

2.       You hate confrontations and you are not having the conversations you need to that are honest and healing.

3.       You take on too much and are carrying energy for people you care about when you don’t want them to ‘suffer.’

 

You worry a lot

What do you need? You need more supportive people in your life that you can reach out to who can uplift you and offer your support to help you move forward. We can’t do this life by ourselves…

What to do in the moment of stress:

Write down what you are worried about. And write down all the decisions you need to make or are afraid to make. Then, next to your worry, who would be a good person/resource to be able to give you the answer/information you need? Do you have to research your topic? Who has your best interests at heart who can also help with this decision? Then, follow through with it…make your decisions and hold firm to them. (And when you worry, reaffirm within yourself or with your support people).

 

You hate confrontations

What do you need? Take the course, Understanding Emotional Patterns to help you through this. When we don’t ‘confront’ things as they come up for us…eventually, they become confrontations (and those really suck…). This course helps you through that.

What to do in the moment of stress:

You are allowed to feel whatever it is you are feeling. Do your best not to feel bad when you feel a negative emotion. Allow yourself to speak about it, knowing that you want to move through that feeling so that you can feel better.

 

You take on too much

What do you need? Ideally, a Wellness Treatment. But if you can’t do that, you have the option of taking Embracing your Truth to help with balanced boundaries or concentrate on your spiritual connection to ‘give back’ what you have taken on.

 

What to do in the moment of stress:

Who are you worrying about? Are they doing what they need to move forward? If yes, trust their soul to keep moving forward. But usually, this isn’t the case…instead, they are not doing what they need to in order to move forward. Determine if they are open and willing to move themselves forward. If they are not, then lovingly allow them to learn the hard way. And be open to them when they become open.

 

My hope is that you feel healthy this holiday season and enjoy your life as it unfolds. If not, don’t be too hard on yourself. Spend time taking care of yourself and do things that will help you feel better that will also move your life forward. Find the connections with people that are fulfilling – and spend your time there! 

Heartbreak Rescue by Rona Recker

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“I’m not feeling well and my emotions are all over the place…how do I recover from heartbreak?”

~A

 

Hello A,

It is challenging healing through heartbreak. There are a host of emotions you experience and they will come on randomly, taking you by surprise. You will also have physical symptoms occurring as well.

 

To help you get through this process, you definitely want to make sure you have your authentic emotions. Dropping too far and too long into them will not be helpful for you, though. So, do what you can not to drop too far into your sadness.

 

The only way to truly heal through this is to grab hold of your Spiritual Connection.  

You can utilize this process to assist you:

1.       Connect spiritually (meditate, picture a light coming through to you, concentrate on your inner belief, etc. (or utilize your Grounding Words from Releasing Old Beliefs). And ask, “Is the time up on this?” If ‘yes’ pops in, you will go through the heartbreak process.

2.       Picture an energy line between you and this person/situation and imagine yourself pulling the line away from your body and replacing it with a line to your spiritual connection. If you envision more than one line, do this to each one.

3.       Then, write down multiple traits about yourself that are positive (or use your 7 Human Roles formula). This is who you truly are. You are going to put your effort here each time you drop, so when this happens, use your energy to grab hold of those traits - who you truly are. Take care of yourself through this process.

4.       When you don’t like the things happening in your humanity, finding the deeper meaning spiritually is the only stronghold you can embrace that will help you come through on the other side. So, spend time journaling or pondering what good things are to come your way next in your life. And plan and move forward on those things. (you can utilize Manifesting your Desires here as well).

5.       You are going to have to train your mind not to linger on the negative. When it comes in, feel it and then do something to move you forward on the good things in your life.

 

I send you my best!

~Rona

 

If you have never taken the courses at Intuitive Development, they are very useful tools that can help you successfully get through anything that comes your way in life. They not only help you internally find peace, but you will find working these tools helps your physical health as well.

Ear Pain Rescue by Rona Recker

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HI Rona,

Here's what's going on with me: my right earlobe at the earring hole has been bothering me when I wear earrings.

I've moved to lighter and lighter earrings. At the end of September I was wearing really light hoops, and after a few hours my right ear was in pain. I removed the earring and after a couple of hours the ear was OK. Next day it was even fewer hours to the pain point. I haven't worn earrings since.

Is there an emotional aspect I can clear here? or am I just done with earrings?

-D

 

Hello D,

That is a very interesting question and I am happy to answer it for you. :)

Your ear is indicating that you are not clearly seeing who you are showing up as in the world. You aren’t noticing in the moment what is happening in your interactions… so, stay present and bring forth honest dialogue if you notice someone is tuning out on you or isn’t actively engaged.

We have the image of ourselves that we ‘think’ we show up as (always charming and fun)… the image of who we ‘actually’ show up as (sometimes insecure or fake)… and the story in between.

When we truly embrace our imperfections… all of our dark parts (here is the kicker) and we don’t make them wrong or bad, then we can embrace that even our dark parts help us and those we interact with to heal judgments, which allows us all to move forward. When we realize our lapses, we can change them for the next time. We are actually all together in this journey.

We also want to make sure that we are learning from other people who are triggering us. If we don’t, then those become roadblocks that will constantly trigger us, which causes our imperfections to show up more.

So, for you – OWN that you are not perfect… you are going to mess up. Grab your heart and allow yourself to teach others through your imperfections! And have a heartfelt dialogue when it happens. :)

Have a great day!

-Rona

Rescue Your Sleep by Rona Recker

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Dear Rona,

I have been incredibly tired lately. No matter how much sleep I get (or don't get) I never feel rested.

~AG

 

Hello AG,

You are definitely not alone in your experience. For you personally, your tiredness is coming from not making clear decisions and moving forward with them. You are doing what you think you are ‘supposed’ to do and your decisions lose their passion in the meantime, leaving you feeling tired and drained.

Make a list of all of your obligations/choices right now…all the choices you are ‘supposed’ to be making, then switch your obligation into owning ‘why’ you are selecting those choices.

Example: You have to get up at a certain time for work, or do a project you don’t really want to do. Look at the big picture…is this job financially providing for you in the way you want right now and that supersedes a project or waking up earlier than you’d like?

Example: Now look at your smaller decisions. You go to lunch with a friend and they pick a place you don’t really want to go. You go anyway. First, negotiating a place you both would have liked would have been ideal. But you already ate there and later that day, the food and/or experience did not satisfy you and you overeat in the evening. Speaking a clear decision would have prevented it, but since you happened to miss that opportunity, you are left with a residual feeling of not being satisfied. Are you willing to speak up next time? If you are, hold that and speak up next time.

Example: Play back your day and make the decision in your mind that you ‘wished’ you had made originally. Why didn’t you make that decision? You must speak what is true for you without the edge (you know what I mean). ;) Are your choices guiding you to your highest self? If they are, HOLD those decisions. If not, renegotiate (without the edge).

Sleep well!

Shoulder Pain Rescue by Rona Recker

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Hi Rona,

I’m having shoulder pain in my left shoulder. It comes and goes, and sometimes it gets really painful. What do I do?

-CH

Hello CH,

When those you care about around you are feeling the ‘strain from life’, you are energetically trying to ‘hold’ it for them to help them get back in balance; however, without having a conversation with them about how they are doing and coming up with a plan of action to move forward, ‘holding their pain’ isn’t helping either side.

So, it’s 2 people you are concerned about at this time for your shoulder. What do you feel is the best thing for them? See if they are open to having a dialogue about that issue and see if you can all feel resolved.

 

Sinus Infection Rescue By Rona Recker

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Scott's Question:

“I have recurring sinus infections, especially around trips. I have been asked to go home on a trip and see family, and I don’t know how to reconcile the hurt with other family members.”

Rona's Answer:

Hi Scott,

When we experience recurring physical concerns, there is an underlying cause that started it. Physically, you know what you need to do when you get a sinus infection to take care of it. But I would like to address the cause of them and what is making your body vulnerable to the infections.

Metaphorically, since yours is a sinus infection, look for a significant person in your life that you were upset with… in this case… about the trip (hint…it is the person you are going home to see). Allow yourself to feel those emotions around that situation first. Since you are going home, having a conversation with that person about that incident would be good… asking for feedback and where they were at when they made that decision. (I’m talking a little in code here).

And then there are the ‘other’ family members there that you allow yourself to feel angry with, rather than the original person. You are blaming them for the incident, rather than addressing the type of relationship you want from the original person. Getting clear on what you want from that relationship and having a dialogue with how it can look like for the both of you that works will release the frustration you experience each time you think about this person.

If you feel lost on how to do this, we have a course called Understanding Emotional Patterns that would help you be able to clear the emotions that get triggered for you, so that you don’t have to feel that way anymore.

- Rona Recker