ID Goes International by Lee Staley


It’s true, I crossed the border!  Just barely, but an adventure non-the-less!  And a great new appreciation for our beautiful neighbors to the north. 

I attended a conference on Vancouver Island and took a little expedition to Butchart Gardens while there too.  Both days were an incredible experience, full of adventures both inside and out.  I’ll tell you a little more in a moment because the truth is the adventure started way before I booked the actual trip!

It seemed like a simple trip on the surface but wow what comes up when you commit to new things.  I’ve travelled before – been to Canada in my youth, typical Mexico trips, multiple islands in the Caribbean and over half the states in our beautiful home here in the USA.  A short trip like this should not be a problem. Except……. Well you’re about to get a glimpse into my mental spin as every Negative Ancestral Pattern I have reared their ugly heads.   

For those of you who do not know what Negative Ancestral Patterns are, just know everyone has them, they run in our families and there are a multitude of them.  Each person has 6 to focus on this life and here are mine to help you get an idea – Anxiety, Scarcity, Apathy, Superiority, Addiction and Dependency.

So back to my trip - that immediately almost didn’t happen - because…We are building a house, we don’t have money for that… I shouldn’t take time off in the middle of the work week, there is too much to do… I’ve certainly travelled before but wait, always WITH someone, never alone… I need a passport, wait I have a passport, oh wait it expires in April and my trip is in June… oh my God, my trip is during my husband’s birthday… and I could go on and on.

I’m a grown adult, approaching 50 (48 to be exact 😊) this shouldn’t be a big deal and yet. There were clearly some things to push thru so I looked a little deeper.  I could go back 30 years but that’s a story for another time.  Truth be told, my youngest just crossed into adulthood and I’ve watched both my kids having to tackle their “big” trips – Kaitlyn off to college and Ryan recently spent a month traveling through England, Scotland and Ireland.  Both had huge fears and both – with the support of their wonderful parents, family, and neighbors (did I mention Lynn and Lisa both live right down the street 😊) they managed to push through, conquer their fears and have an incredible experience. 

Now it was my turn.  When I went to book my conference, I hesitated, for a brief moment.  My son just happened to be sitting next to me, so I asked him if I should really do this and, well, I got the “look”.  You know the one that so lovingly says ‘you’re an idiot and just push the button, but I totally feel for you as I was just going through it myself and your support was invaluable’.  Well, that was my interpretation of his look anyhow. 

So, trip on!!  Passport, Packing and Panic – check!!  And then the moment of departure.  I kiss my husband goodbye and I’m off.  (Side note for those of you who were wondering, he gave me the same look as my son when I worried about missing his birthday.  He was good.)

As I make my way thru the airport the overwhelm of all the people hits me.  And then, oh dear God, I’m going to be trapped on airplanes for over 4 hours right next to people.  Did I mention I’m an empath, and ummmmm, I hate crowds… and people… and well talking in general?  Ok, I might be out of alignment. 

The flights were actually great.  There was that one moment when I looked out the window of our prop plane, while waiting for take off, and see a guy on a ladder with a big screwdriver screwing something onto the wing and thought, hmmmmm.  But you know, I had worked my tools and was back in alignment.  We’d be good.

Great conversation with the guy next to me.  He even came back at baggage claim and said thanks again he enjoyed talking.  Yeah, it wasn’t that bad LOL. 

I arrived in Canada, happy, aligned and ready for the next piece of my adventure.  Which happened to be to not think to pre-book a car, but not to worry.  I walked right out, saw 2 shuttles and immediately knew to choose the one on the right.  Gotta love intuition!  The driver was wonderful. My car mate on this shuttle ride was from London, who was also going to the conference. She was a joy as well!

And so, continued my journey.

The next day was the Butchart Gardens.  Beautiful backstory of it being a limestone quarry that was starting to run out.  When the husband had decided they were going to shut it down and move on, his wife basically said they should leave the land more beautiful than they found it.  She wanted to plant a garden - and they did.  It is still in the family today and receives over a million visitors per year.  It is truly one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever experienced. 

The plants and trees themselves are incredible but the master planning behind it all, amazing!  Even in a crowd you can find a path or a niche to disappear into the quiet beauty around you.  Everything blends in a flurry of color and wonder, and you find yourself excited to see what’s around the next turn.   And the sunken garden (aka old rock quarry) didn’t disappoint.  As you curve out from the shadows of the giant redwoods, you turn around the bend and a natural window opens to the garden below and for just a moment you feel like you’ve discovered some lost paradise.

Beautiful yes, but another place I had to work my stuff?  You bet!  Again, a 2-hour bus drive just to get to the gardens and momentary overwhelm of having to sit and talk with someone again, but the lady next to me was just a wonderful soul.  We talked a lot, shared life stories, even had some tears and she invited me to stay with her if I was ever in her part of the world.  Maybe I’m not so horrible at this people thing after all!

We stopped to hear one of the speakers give a short presentation then swapped busses only to find a new woman who loved to talk.  This was perfect.  She knew the speaker back when he taught out of people’s homes and I didn’t have to say much, just ask prompting questions and I got more information than if I would have read his biography!!

Then the arrival at the gardens themselves.  Brief excitement met with complete overwhelm of 5 buses of people unloading all at the same time.  And that was just our conference people!  As we unloaded, there were rows of other buses and vans as we walked toward the entrance.  Flashbacks of fieldtrips with the kids - except I am not responsible for seven, ten-year-old boys this time.  Just me……relax……except all these people…….ughhhhh.  I remembered again I have tools to deal with this.  (I had a moment of wishing they were the kind you could throw at people.) 

Ok, out of alignment, let’s start with grounding – Organize.  Yep, my grounding word to bring me back in alignment starts with organizing.  I organize my thoughts and the path on the map I’m going to start on.  And from there I wound my way thru that paradise.  Encountering people and places that were as unique as my experience.  I tackled stairs, bees and humidity that made my hair increase to 3 times its normal size.  And I also discovered something else very important – I cannot take a selfie and smile at the same time.  So as any good friend would do I sent pictures of my hair and the not so smiling smiles back to my friends, so they could laugh…… with me no doubt, not at me, right?!

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I was exhausted as I returned to my wonderful little room that overlooked both the ocean and the street below.  I ordered dinner in and people-watched as the sun went down.  It was the perfect close to the day.

The next day was the actual conference day itself.  It was a conference on Science and Spirituality with over 1500 people and 50 different countries represented.  I loved the impact of what that could mean for our world. And realized, once again, I really didn’t like being around that many people.  Again, open heart.  I realized today was different, I was here for me and my passion for learning and that was ok too.  Did I talk to people, of course, but a completely different way today and I quickly settled in. 

They were us up there on stage.  Intuitive Development amplified to the next level.  I watched with a passion for the topic and for what our next steps will be.  They had glitches in the power points, they personally joked with each other, they exposed their weaknesses in addition to their strengths.  They didn’t hide themselves in perfection. It was just the simple truth of who they were and what they wanted to gift to the world.

I closed my eyes for a brief moment - Lynn on stage, Lisa by the side of the stage, feeling the rest of the team around in our various places.  1500 people, 50 different countries.  The world craves change.  They crave consciousness.  We are a part of that.  You are too.

I’m excited to see where my next adventure leads!  Maybe with smoother hair.


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