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ID Goes International by Lee Staley

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It’s true, I crossed the border!  Just barely, but an adventure non-the-less!  And a great new appreciation for our beautiful neighbors to the north. 

I attended a conference on Vancouver Island and took a little expedition to Butchart Gardens while there too.  Both days were an incredible experience, full of adventures both inside and out.  I’ll tell you a little more in a moment because the truth is the adventure started way before I booked the actual trip!

It seemed like a simple trip on the surface but wow what comes up when you commit to new things.  I’ve travelled before – been to Canada in my youth, typical Mexico trips, multiple islands in the Caribbean and over half the states in our beautiful home here in the USA.  A short trip like this should not be a problem. Except……. Well you’re about to get a glimpse into my mental spin as every Negative Ancestral Pattern I have reared their ugly heads.   

For those of you who do not know what Negative Ancestral Patterns are, just know everyone has them, they run in our families and there are a multitude of them.  Each person has 6 to focus on this life and here are mine to help you get an idea – Anxiety, Scarcity, Apathy, Superiority, Addiction and Dependency.

So back to my trip - that immediately almost didn’t happen - because…We are building a house, we don’t have money for that… I shouldn’t take time off in the middle of the work week, there is too much to do… I’ve certainly travelled before but wait, always WITH someone, never alone… I need a passport, wait I have a passport, oh wait it expires in April and my trip is in June… oh my God, my trip is during my husband’s birthday… and I could go on and on.

I’m a grown adult, approaching 50 (48 to be exact 😊) this shouldn’t be a big deal and yet. There were clearly some things to push thru so I looked a little deeper.  I could go back 30 years but that’s a story for another time.  Truth be told, my youngest just crossed into adulthood and I’ve watched both my kids having to tackle their “big” trips – Kaitlyn off to college and Ryan recently spent a month traveling through England, Scotland and Ireland.  Both had huge fears and both – with the support of their wonderful parents, family, and neighbors (did I mention Lynn and Lisa both live right down the street 😊) they managed to push through, conquer their fears and have an incredible experience. 

Now it was my turn.  When I went to book my conference, I hesitated, for a brief moment.  My son just happened to be sitting next to me, so I asked him if I should really do this and, well, I got the “look”.  You know the one that so lovingly says ‘you’re an idiot and just push the button, but I totally feel for you as I was just going through it myself and your support was invaluable’.  Well, that was my interpretation of his look anyhow. 

So, trip on!!  Passport, Packing and Panic – check!!  And then the moment of departure.  I kiss my husband goodbye and I’m off.  (Side note for those of you who were wondering, he gave me the same look as my son when I worried about missing his birthday.  He was good.)

As I make my way thru the airport the overwhelm of all the people hits me.  And then, oh dear God, I’m going to be trapped on airplanes for over 4 hours right next to people.  Did I mention I’m an empath, and ummmmm, I hate crowds… and people… and well talking in general?  Ok, I might be out of alignment. 

The flights were actually great.  There was that one moment when I looked out the window of our prop plane, while waiting for take off, and see a guy on a ladder with a big screwdriver screwing something onto the wing and thought, hmmmmm.  But you know, I had worked my tools and was back in alignment.  We’d be good.

Great conversation with the guy next to me.  He even came back at baggage claim and said thanks again he enjoyed talking.  Yeah, it wasn’t that bad LOL. 

I arrived in Canada, happy, aligned and ready for the next piece of my adventure.  Which happened to be to not think to pre-book a car, but not to worry.  I walked right out, saw 2 shuttles and immediately knew to choose the one on the right.  Gotta love intuition!  The driver was wonderful. My car mate on this shuttle ride was from London, who was also going to the conference. She was a joy as well!

And so, continued my journey.

The next day was the Butchart Gardens.  Beautiful backstory of it being a limestone quarry that was starting to run out.  When the husband had decided they were going to shut it down and move on, his wife basically said they should leave the land more beautiful than they found it.  She wanted to plant a garden - and they did.  It is still in the family today and receives over a million visitors per year.  It is truly one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever experienced. 

The plants and trees themselves are incredible but the master planning behind it all, amazing!  Even in a crowd you can find a path or a niche to disappear into the quiet beauty around you.  Everything blends in a flurry of color and wonder, and you find yourself excited to see what’s around the next turn.   And the sunken garden (aka old rock quarry) didn’t disappoint.  As you curve out from the shadows of the giant redwoods, you turn around the bend and a natural window opens to the garden below and for just a moment you feel like you’ve discovered some lost paradise.

Beautiful yes, but another place I had to work my stuff?  You bet!  Again, a 2-hour bus drive just to get to the gardens and momentary overwhelm of having to sit and talk with someone again, but the lady next to me was just a wonderful soul.  We talked a lot, shared life stories, even had some tears and she invited me to stay with her if I was ever in her part of the world.  Maybe I’m not so horrible at this people thing after all!

We stopped to hear one of the speakers give a short presentation then swapped busses only to find a new woman who loved to talk.  This was perfect.  She knew the speaker back when he taught out of people’s homes and I didn’t have to say much, just ask prompting questions and I got more information than if I would have read his biography!!

Then the arrival at the gardens themselves.  Brief excitement met with complete overwhelm of 5 buses of people unloading all at the same time.  And that was just our conference people!  As we unloaded, there were rows of other buses and vans as we walked toward the entrance.  Flashbacks of fieldtrips with the kids - except I am not responsible for seven, ten-year-old boys this time.  Just me……relax……except all these people…….ughhhhh.  I remembered again I have tools to deal with this.  (I had a moment of wishing they were the kind you could throw at people.) 

Ok, out of alignment, let’s start with grounding – Organize.  Yep, my grounding word to bring me back in alignment starts with organizing.  I organize my thoughts and the path on the map I’m going to start on.  And from there I wound my way thru that paradise.  Encountering people and places that were as unique as my experience.  I tackled stairs, bees and humidity that made my hair increase to 3 times its normal size.  And I also discovered something else very important – I cannot take a selfie and smile at the same time.  So as any good friend would do I sent pictures of my hair and the not so smiling smiles back to my friends, so they could laugh…… with me no doubt, not at me, right?!

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I was exhausted as I returned to my wonderful little room that overlooked both the ocean and the street below.  I ordered dinner in and people-watched as the sun went down.  It was the perfect close to the day.

The next day was the actual conference day itself.  It was a conference on Science and Spirituality with over 1500 people and 50 different countries represented.  I loved the impact of what that could mean for our world. And realized, once again, I really didn’t like being around that many people.  Again, open heart.  I realized today was different, I was here for me and my passion for learning and that was ok too.  Did I talk to people, of course, but a completely different way today and I quickly settled in. 

They were us up there on stage.  Intuitive Development amplified to the next level.  I watched with a passion for the topic and for what our next steps will be.  They had glitches in the power points, they personally joked with each other, they exposed their weaknesses in addition to their strengths.  They didn’t hide themselves in perfection. It was just the simple truth of who they were and what they wanted to gift to the world.

I closed my eyes for a brief moment - Lynn on stage, Lisa by the side of the stage, feeling the rest of the team around in our various places.  1500 people, 50 different countries.  The world craves change.  They crave consciousness.  We are a part of that.  You are too.

I’m excited to see where my next adventure leads!  Maybe with smoother hair.

 

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The Power of Patience by Annette Pingitore

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Patience for me is the ability to deal with challenges and handle setbacks while staying calm, cool and collected.  Ahhhh, just think about the inner strength this requires to keep yourself from being reactive as opposed to being patient in order to respond from your heart.  This takes practice, discipline and a willingness to choose consciously how you are going to deal with the challenges you face in life. 

 

Do you find yourself flying off the handle when things don’t go the way you’ve planned?  Are you critical of others when they don’t act or behave the way you’d like them to?  Do you suffer from road rage and take your anger out on unsuspecting passersby?  There are many things that can trigger your impatience, but if you don’t learn to take control of your emotions, they can wreak havoc on your relationships, health and every area of your life.  Impatience creates tension in your body which in turn leaves you susceptible to illness or injury.  Learning to exercise control of yourself will not only benefit you but everyone around you.  Impatience is toxic to all who are exposed and must be dealt with if you are to find the peace and harmony that you truly long for and deserve.

 

Patience is one of the seven Christian virtues that is said to oppose wrath (extreme anger) which is one of the seven deadly sins.  Think about that for a moment… no matter what your belief system is, certainly you can see the benefit of practicing patience is your life.  Just imagine all of the misery that could be avoided if you were willing to try a softer and more thoughtful approach to your issues rather than mindlessly reacting to everything and everybody.  Think about how you could gain the respect of others and how they might be willing to hear you and take in what you are saying if you aren’t trying to righteously control them with your opinions and judgments.

 

I’d like to share a quick example of how exercising patience in my relationship with my husband recently brought me great joy.  First of all, I’ve been misunderstanding what patience looks like with him.  I thought to be patient was to quickly let things roll off me, and I was willing to have peace at all costs.  I was sweeping issues under the rug rather than dealing with them which was leaving me feeling unfulfilled.  Then I finally woke up and realized that I was misusing patience and was allowing myself to be a doormat, just going along with everything and staying cool, calm and collected even though I was really feeling hurt and angry.  I finally realized that in order to have a healthy relationship, I needed to set boundaries.  Setting boundaries takes standing firm, speaking your truth and then detaching until the other person becomes accountable for their actions.  What is actually required is to have patience with myself and the situation not the inappropriate behaviors of others.  So, I tried a new approach.  Instead of trying to hurry up and make things better after an argument, I decided to be patient and wait for him to approach me with an apology and an acknowledgment of how hurtful his words and actions were.  By waiting patiently and giving him the time and space needed to reflect on himself, he ultimately realized the error in his ways.  Exercising patience in this way required him to step up and take ownership in his part of our discord, and I was willing to do the same.  This in turn inspired him to line up a babysitter for our children so we could have a romantic dinner and fun night for us to reconnect.   All felt right in the world, and I truly got to experience what it looks like to be patient and honest with my feelings, set boundaries and uphold a higher standard for myself.  I’ve learned these strategies from the courses I’ve taken at Intuitive Development.  The particular courses that came in handy in this situation were Understanding Emotional Patters and Defining Bottom Lines.  These classes help you to recognize your feelings, express them appropriately, set standards within your relationships and create heartfelt connections.


The next time you find yourself feeling impatient, stop for a moment and ask yourself what is really going on for you?  What’s the true underlying reason for this feeling?  Once you find the actual source at the bottom of it all, confront the person and/or situation head on, firmly and patiently speaking your truth rather than being confrontational.  This is how you can enact change in the world you are creating for yourself.  Once we stop trying to control others and instead take control of ourselves, we then have the power necessary to experience genuine peace and joy in our lives.  We need to balance our passions by allowing life to flow and naturally unfold.  When we push too hard or too fast for what we want, we actually create a resistance to it.

So…

Stop, breathe, find the truth, confront, clear, change and be PATIENT!  

Get going on your own success story.

Reflections by Roselle Weinberger

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is this person looking back at me? It’s not someone I recognize right away. Is it the old me or the new me? Sometimes it’s hard to tell.

 

The new me wants to move forward and is making progress in that direction; meanwhile, the old me wants to retreat to old, familiar, and comfortable ways. How is this serving me? Quite frankly, it isn’t. It is causing havoc in my life and the lives of those I love.

 

Each day we make choices, some good and some bad. Worse yet, sometimes what we considered to be a good choice wasn’t. Discouraging? It certainly can be if we are not conscious and moving forward without purpose or connection to a higher source. We like to think we have control of our lives, but we don’t. We are constantly faced with obstacles. How we handle them makes all the difference in the world.

 

Retreat or power through? Avoid or confront? Escape or stay? Choices. Some choices are made in a split second, while others are mulled over for a long period of time.  Does the length of time matter? Yes.  There is a window of time for possibility.  If action isn’t taken during that window, the opportunity is lost, or at the very least, only a new version of the former opportunity will be possible, with modified obstacles.

 

These are some of the concepts I’m opting into through classes at The Center for Intuitive Development. My mind has been opened and my awareness has broadened. I have awakened a desire to live a more enlightened life.

Awaken your life. Take the first step.

Me, Myself, and My Messages By Mike Oppenheim

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All my life I have been searching for meaning: be it in nature, consciousness, sleep, dreams, or myself. This ceaseless search has been both my burden and best friend.

Prior to stumbling into a former-stumbler who introduced me to Lynn M. Bunch and the Center for Intuitive Development, I didn’t have names or even sign posts for my private, sacred methods for decision-making, or my “science of living,” if you will.

It was therefore a remarkable moment in my life when I started taking the Intuitive Development Blueprint courses, all of which give background, names, and best of all, reliable instructions for how to best use what I now refer to as my messages.

There are messages all around us: too many, if you ask me. “Lose weight the easy way…” “Improve your sex life instantly with…” “Choosy Moms choose…” These messages distract us from our guided messages, the only messages worth following.

I have a confession. Sometimes* in my life, I have purposefully ignored my guided messages, and more often than not, it was because they contradicted the “wisdom” of my country, culture or society. *(“Sometimes?” (blush) “I mean, uh, quite often…”)

Blame it on peer pressure, a desire to fit in, or weakness: I’ll own any accusation, for I now stand on the other side of what I formerly saw as an impenetrable wall separating me from what I always sought: self-confidence. I am now living in what I always intuited as my Truth, but this was no cakewalk, thanks to socialization.

I have replaced my affiliation with “Zombie University,” with the School of Intuitively Guided Conscious Humans. Our mission is simple: We follow messages and pay attention to signs in order to live a life of purpose, with joy and self-respect.

I know that the way I feel is not a permanent state. Just like everything in our ephemeral Universe, Living with Intuition requires dedication and discipline—but I am happy to report that I have now built a good streak of following messages without obsessing over why they arose, what they will accomplish, and best of all, how others will judge me and how I will judge myself. My chains were voluntary.

My Truth is not your Truth, but any two humans living in Truth can recognize each other, even if one is a Millennial skinny jeaned hipster brewing chick espresso and the other is a renegade leather chapped Boomer on a Harley: our hearts don’t judge.

We all come from and will exit our lives with a unique experience, but we all share the gift of intuition, which comes from the same source, and it’s a lot easier to see this, learn this, experience this, and ultimately manage this, when you have a guide.

Intuitive Development is the best guide I have found in thirty years of seeking. It’s not the only path, but it’s the best one for those who want education and support.

I tried for most of my life to make my way alone, and I didn’t fail, but as I was trekking the mountain of my as-of-yet greatest challenge, I learned how superior the reliable path of intuition is, and now I’m on it, and I’m ecstatic with the results.

Find your own way here.

Conscious Conversations by Mike Oppenheim

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My chief concern since childhood has been trying to understand why I feel lonely when I’m around other people. I could be alone in a cave under an avalanche (with oxygen), and I would feel less lonely than I feel at most parties.

 

I have matured. I’m 36, and despite my grey hairs, thankfully, aging has garnered me an awareness of what loneliness is, not what it’s supposed to be. Loneliness is a word we consider (mistakenly) as a binary feeling contingent on one variable: “Are other humans around?” How silly. If the cure for loneliness was: “being around people,” Starbucks would be so busy they would have to open a Starbucks inside each Starbucks to satiate the constant demand for the simple cure for loneliness.

 

I filed for and consummated my divorce in the first half of 2017. This occurred for many reasons, but one of the two main reasons was because I was tired of feeling lonely, despite living with my family. I was confounded and demoralized. I had met a nice woman, we had dated and traveled and fallen in love, we had been engaged, we had gotten married, and we had birthed a planned child; how could I feel lonely?

 

I was lonely because I had no connection at home to anyone spiritually conscious. My son, bless his heart, will get there, someday, but at that time, he wasn’t even two, so he didn’t need to converse about Spirit; he was living in Spirit, like most children, happily pooping his diaper all day long. It was my wife who wouldn’t meet me there.

 

Flash forward six months from my divorce. I sit, completely alone, in a new house, without my wife or my son, and yet I feel anything but lonely, despite being alone!

 

What changed? I met people who care about what I care about: consciousness, spirituality, and leading meaningful lives of purpose, despite life’s tomfoolery of tragedies (read: shit shows). My cure for loneliness is “conscious conversations.”

 

I’m Mike Oppenheim, and I’m a recovering alone-aholic. I used to seek the stagnant energy of being alone over the loneliness of partying with people with no interest in “partying consciously.” This doesn’t mean you can’t have wine, eat cake, or skinny dip; it means you do all three while caring about humanity and a spiritual connection with yourself and others.

Be YOUnited! by Annette Pingitore

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Isn’t “YOUnited” a great play on words!? I took a break last month from writing a blog; I was in a place of feeling a little uninspired as far as writing was concerned. For most of us, December is an extremely busy time of year when holiday festivities combine with our regular responsibilities. 

 

Personally, I had so much going on that I couldn’t even imagine what I might write about.  However, amidst all of the fun and chaos of the holiday season, I received an intuitively guided message to title my next blog “YOUnited.”  This felt like an amazing way to kick off the New Year! I couldn’t believe that I hadn’t already seen these words blended together before!

 

YOUnited is what happens when the YOU (internally, your soul) unites with the YOU (externally, who you are in the world).  This is about YOU becoming whole and integrating who you are, inside and out.  YOUniting is what we are all here to do, and the courses at The Center of Intuitive Development are designed to help you do just that.

Many of us have lost sight of ourselves at one time or another.  We get so mired in our work, children, chores, etc. that we go unconscious and forget who we started out to be.  Our intentions are good as we strive for perfection, but we sometimes go into autopilot and forget to stop and check in: How am I feeling? What have I accomplished? What do I desire?  Most importantly: WHO AM I?

That exact question is what ultimately led me to find The Center for Intuitive Development. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted anymore, because I had fallen into co-dependent relationships and lost sight of my true identity. I also realized I had never really taken the time nor dug deep enough to discover whom I truly was in the first place, let alone what my life’s purpose was. 

With Intuitive Development, I quickly realized that I had landed in the perfect place to examine myself on every level: spiritually, emotionally, and physically. The e-Courses had me closely examine the many different aspects of myself. 

“Embracing Your Truth” helped me understand who I am internally when I am connected spiritually.  To quote Lynn, “judgment is the killer of higher consciousness.” This course taught me how to notice when I’m judging either myself or someone else so that I can quickly shift back into a conscious and aligned state.  I now have the necessary confidence to dedicate my life to helping myself and others to find joy in life.

“Seven Human Roles” helped me solidify who I am in the roles I play as a human being. I now own who I am as a provider, lover, friend, daughter, mother, wife, and woman. This course enabled me to look into my childhood to see where I was wounded in each of these roles, due to feelings of jealousy and rejection. I discovered that if I had generated strength within myself, I would not have taken things personally.

“Understanding Emotional Patterns” taught me to identify how I express my feelings when I’m in my truth, hurt, anger and numb emotional states. I’m now more aware of what’s going on for me when I get emotionally triggered so I can quickly confront a person or situation from my heart, rather than from a reactive place of judgment. I used these tools to let go of my past and to become genuinely aware of my emotions.

“Defining Bottom Lines” had me examine the qualities I’m looking for in the people I choose to be in relationships with. Before this class, I didn’t realize how important it is to define these traits before establishing a relationship, of any kind, with another person. I was haphazardly allowing anyone into my life without examining whether or not they would add value to my life. I was behaving this way out of guilt over trying not to hurt anyone’s feelings. I would therefore learn “the hard way” how self-sacrificing it is to have relationships without healthy, pre-established boundaries. This class helped me focus on what I truly desire in my relationships.

These are just 4 examples of how the courses at Intuitive Development helped me find myself and feel “whole.”  Best of all, the courses aren’t disconnected: After completing the first nine courses, you create a Blueprint for your life! It’s a thorough map that reminds you of WHO YOU ARE along with your intuitively, self-established action steps and tools for assisting you in healing and growing to fulfill your life purpose. There is no better time than now to “Be YOUnited!”

 

Overcoming a Fear by Roselle Weinberger

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Recently, I did something that I never thought I would ever do.  I rode in a helicopter, not once, but twice! This may not seem like a big deal to you, but for me, it was huge because I have had a life long fear of heights.  Just the thought of being anywhere near a helicopter has always made me cringe and head in the opposite direction. You’re probably wondering what brought about the change, right? You may not believe me, but it was due to a class I took at Intuitive Development called Merging Lives.

 

Throughout my life, I have heard people refer to people who have an “old soul.” I had never put much stock into that idea until I started learning about Spirit, Mind, Body.  I discovered that my soul had indeed experienced many wounds that had never been healed, so they kept repeating over and over again. I have no explanation for why I was afraid of heights, but my soul held the memory. I still don’t know how or why the fear started, but I do know that it is now gone.

 

Through the Merging Lives class, I was given an exercise to clear my phobia. Call it a rebirth of sorts. It was a simple thing that had an amazing outcome. Was I skeptical?  Yes, I definitely was. I remember thinking, how is this going to help? But, having complete trust in the Intuitive Development team, I did what was asked of me. Boy, am I glad I did!

 

I completed my ‘rebirth,’ and soon after my granddaughter suggested a helicopter ride. I was expecting the nervousness and tightness in my body that I typically experience in any situation involving heights. Much to my surprise, nothing happened! I actually found myself looking forward to the new adventure. Following through on this ‘simple thing’ has opened up a whole to new world to me. Who knows what daring thing I will do next? The possibilities are endless.

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Knock Knock.... by Rona Recker

Knock knock.

Who’s there?

Y.M.I.

Y.M.I. who?

Y.M.I. sick????!!!

I have noticed a LOT of people are experiencing colds, the flu, sinus infections, etc. And the word that popped is that it is because of GUILT. When we feel Guilt, our immunity lowers and sickness can get in. 

What is Guilt? It is all about judging yourself. Guilt is ‘supposed’ to be a momentary reaction to help us get back in balance because we either didn’t hold a decision we made (for example, you made the decision to have a small event with just your family and other family members feel slighted... but they don’t realize you needed some intimate time to bond again) or we did not make the right decision in the first place (you knew not to overextend yourself and you did it anyway). (Manifesting Your Desires Course). Guilt stops us from being able to manifest things in our lives.

So, how do you clear being sick? Well, clear your Guilt! (Stop beating yourself up!)

First, write everything down that is bothering you and determine what you could have done differently to prevent it. (Like, holding to your decision of having the intimate family time, or speaking up saying you weren’t going to be able to overextend yourself). 

We make a lot of decisions because we don’t want to reject people and don’t want them to reject us. And every time we do this, we fall into a Dependent Pattern (from 7 Human Roles. How do you feel when you get rejected...? That’s your Dependent Pattern). We don’t make appropriate decisions for ourselves every time we do this and we just accumulate more Guilt.

Second, if you know you made the right decision... Stand firm in it. Hold that decision and honor it. If you did NOT make the right decision, you need to have a clearing conversation either with the person or within yourself. It could look like an apology, clarification, or just knowing you are going to work on not doing that again.

Think of all the conversations going on in your mind right now... clear them with real heartfelt conversations. Then...

Knock knock...

Who’s there?

Guilt.

Guilt, eh? 

Nope!!!