personal development

The Power of Patience by Annette Pingitore

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Patience for me is the ability to deal with challenges and handle setbacks while staying calm, cool and collected.  Ahhhh, just think about the inner strength this requires to keep yourself from being reactive as opposed to being patient in order to respond from your heart.  This takes practice, discipline and a willingness to choose consciously how you are going to deal with the challenges you face in life. 

 

Do you find yourself flying off the handle when things don’t go the way you’ve planned?  Are you critical of others when they don’t act or behave the way you’d like them to?  Do you suffer from road rage and take your anger out on unsuspecting passersby?  There are many things that can trigger your impatience, but if you don’t learn to take control of your emotions, they can wreak havoc on your relationships, health and every area of your life.  Impatience creates tension in your body which in turn leaves you susceptible to illness or injury.  Learning to exercise control of yourself will not only benefit you but everyone around you.  Impatience is toxic to all who are exposed and must be dealt with if you are to find the peace and harmony that you truly long for and deserve.

 

Patience is one of the seven Christian virtues that is said to oppose wrath (extreme anger) which is one of the seven deadly sins.  Think about that for a moment… no matter what your belief system is, certainly you can see the benefit of practicing patience is your life.  Just imagine all of the misery that could be avoided if you were willing to try a softer and more thoughtful approach to your issues rather than mindlessly reacting to everything and everybody.  Think about how you could gain the respect of others and how they might be willing to hear you and take in what you are saying if you aren’t trying to righteously control them with your opinions and judgments.

 

I’d like to share a quick example of how exercising patience in my relationship with my husband recently brought me great joy.  First of all, I’ve been misunderstanding what patience looks like with him.  I thought to be patient was to quickly let things roll off me, and I was willing to have peace at all costs.  I was sweeping issues under the rug rather than dealing with them which was leaving me feeling unfulfilled.  Then I finally woke up and realized that I was misusing patience and was allowing myself to be a doormat, just going along with everything and staying cool, calm and collected even though I was really feeling hurt and angry.  I finally realized that in order to have a healthy relationship, I needed to set boundaries.  Setting boundaries takes standing firm, speaking your truth and then detaching until the other person becomes accountable for their actions.  What is actually required is to have patience with myself and the situation not the inappropriate behaviors of others.  So, I tried a new approach.  Instead of trying to hurry up and make things better after an argument, I decided to be patient and wait for him to approach me with an apology and an acknowledgment of how hurtful his words and actions were.  By waiting patiently and giving him the time and space needed to reflect on himself, he ultimately realized the error in his ways.  Exercising patience in this way required him to step up and take ownership in his part of our discord, and I was willing to do the same.  This in turn inspired him to line up a babysitter for our children so we could have a romantic dinner and fun night for us to reconnect.   All felt right in the world, and I truly got to experience what it looks like to be patient and honest with my feelings, set boundaries and uphold a higher standard for myself.  I’ve learned these strategies from the courses I’ve taken at Intuitive Development.  The particular courses that came in handy in this situation were Understanding Emotional Patters and Defining Bottom Lines.  These classes help you to recognize your feelings, express them appropriately, set standards within your relationships and create heartfelt connections.


The next time you find yourself feeling impatient, stop for a moment and ask yourself what is really going on for you?  What’s the true underlying reason for this feeling?  Once you find the actual source at the bottom of it all, confront the person and/or situation head on, firmly and patiently speaking your truth rather than being confrontational.  This is how you can enact change in the world you are creating for yourself.  Once we stop trying to control others and instead take control of ourselves, we then have the power necessary to experience genuine peace and joy in our lives.  We need to balance our passions by allowing life to flow and naturally unfold.  When we push too hard or too fast for what we want, we actually create a resistance to it.

So…

Stop, breathe, find the truth, confront, clear, change and be PATIENT!  

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    Be YOUnited! by Annette Pingitore

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    Isn’t “YOUnited” a great play on words!? I took a break last month from writing a blog; I was in a place of feeling a little uninspired as far as writing was concerned. For most of us, December is an extremely busy time of year when holiday festivities combine with our regular responsibilities. 

     

    Personally, I had so much going on that I couldn’t even imagine what I might write about.  However, amidst all of the fun and chaos of the holiday season, I received an intuitively guided message to title my next blog “YOUnited.”  This felt like an amazing way to kick off the New Year! I couldn’t believe that I hadn’t already seen these words blended together before!

     

    YOUnited is what happens when the YOU (internally, your soul) unites with the YOU (externally, who you are in the world).  This is about YOU becoming whole and integrating who you are, inside and out.  YOUniting is what we are all here to do, and the courses at The Center of Intuitive Development are designed to help you do just that.

    Many of us have lost sight of ourselves at one time or another.  We get so mired in our work, children, chores, etc. that we go unconscious and forget who we started out to be.  Our intentions are good as we strive for perfection, but we sometimes go into autopilot and forget to stop and check in: How am I feeling? What have I accomplished? What do I desire?  Most importantly: WHO AM I?

    That exact question is what ultimately led me to find The Center for Intuitive Development. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted anymore, because I had fallen into co-dependent relationships and lost sight of my true identity. I also realized I had never really taken the time nor dug deep enough to discover whom I truly was in the first place, let alone what my life’s purpose was. 

    With Intuitive Development, I quickly realized that I had landed in the perfect place to examine myself on every level: spiritually, emotionally, and physically. The e-Courses had me closely examine the many different aspects of myself. 

    “Embracing Your Truth” helped me understand who I am internally when I am connected spiritually.  To quote Lynn, “judgment is the killer of higher consciousness.” This course taught me how to notice when I’m judging either myself or someone else so that I can quickly shift back into a conscious and aligned state.  I now have the necessary confidence to dedicate my life to helping myself and others to find joy in life.

    “Seven Human Roles” helped me solidify who I am in the roles I play as a human being. I now own who I am as a provider, lover, friend, daughter, mother, wife, and woman. This course enabled me to look into my childhood to see where I was wounded in each of these roles, due to feelings of jealousy and rejection. I discovered that if I had generated strength within myself, I would not have taken things personally.

    “Understanding Emotional Patterns” taught me to identify how I express my feelings when I’m in my truth, hurt, anger and numb emotional states. I’m now more aware of what’s going on for me when I get emotionally triggered so I can quickly confront a person or situation from my heart, rather than from a reactive place of judgment. I used these tools to let go of my past and to become genuinely aware of my emotions.

    “Defining Bottom Lines” had me examine the qualities I’m looking for in the people I choose to be in relationships with. Before this class, I didn’t realize how important it is to define these traits before establishing a relationship, of any kind, with another person. I was haphazardly allowing anyone into my life without examining whether or not they would add value to my life. I was behaving this way out of guilt over trying not to hurt anyone’s feelings. I would therefore learn “the hard way” how self-sacrificing it is to have relationships without healthy, pre-established boundaries. This class helped me focus on what I truly desire in my relationships.

    These are just 4 examples of how the courses at Intuitive Development helped me find myself and feel “whole.”  Best of all, the courses aren’t disconnected: After completing the first nine courses, you create a Blueprint for your life! It’s a thorough map that reminds you of WHO YOU ARE along with your intuitively, self-established action steps and tools for assisting you in healing and growing to fulfill your life purpose. There is no better time than now to “Be YOUnited!”

     

    Finding a Happy Place by Roselle Weinberger

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    What do I do when sadness starts to overwhelm me?  Do I sit and cry?  Retreat to my bed?  Throw or break things?  Although these options sound appealing, they are a band aid and provide only temporary relief.  Granted, in the moment all seems well, but the sadness starts creeping back.

     

    In my darkest moments, I go to my happy place.  What is a happy place?  It’s a place you can relax, reflect, and rejuvenate.  It can be a physical place or a place you can envision in your mind.  Life can be stressful and sometimes overwhelming.  If we take a few minutes each day to go to our happy place, we will be able to handle the chaos better.  Take a few minutes and breathe.  Calm the chatter and refocus.  

     

    If I’m at home, I go outside and sit on my porch swing, close my eyes and listen to nature.  When away, I close my eyes and envision something that brings me happiness like the ocean or grandchildren.  Envisioning these things helps calm me and stop the negative mental spin.

    It’s NOT a selfish thing.  It’s just a way of being kind to yourself.  Yes, that’s OK.  I know this isn’t what you are used to doing.  We, by nature, usually put ourselves at the bottom of the list.  We nurture others while ignoring ourselves.  If you remember to treat yourselves in the same loving manner you treat your family and friends, you’ll be surprised the difference it will make in your life. Seriously, give it a try.  There’s nothing to lose but lots to gain.  This is something ID has taught me that I must take care of myself before I can effectively help others.

     

    So do something each day that brings you happiness.  It may be as simple as sitting quietly enjoying a chocolate chip cookie or watching the clouds drift by.  The ideas are limitless!

    We all have a choice in the way we get through the day.  We can choose to make a conscious effort to be aware of what is triggering our thoughts/feelings or to be unconscious and ignore what is going on around us.  I’ve found that being conscious is the way to go in order to keep moving forward in a positive manner. 

     

    Happiness is contagious.  Let’s pass it on beginning with ourselves.

     

    What You Can Expect Along The Way

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    What can you expect along the way?

    Starting a new curriculum is exciting and challenging. With that understanding, we have created and organized our courses in such a way to increase the potential results for every client.

    With each course you can expect to further yourself by:

    1.       Developing your intuition personally & professionally

    2.       Having a grounded understanding of self & connection to others

    3.       Integrating the practical, physical & spiritual in all you do

    4.       Creating results & navigating an authentic path to the life you desire

    What do you desire?